Love Bites: Give Thanks by Sharing Music, Making Time, and More with Stormi Maya
Hey, metalheads! Sorry I was gone last month. I was busy moving to an entirely new state and you know how crazy that sort of thing can get. Regardless, I’ve received so many love questions from y’all and Cinnamon is here to help!
I hope you guys have a rockin’ Thanksgiving with you and yours, but let’s get into why you’re here in the first place — you have love questions and I have advice. The first one in this month’s edition of “Love Bites” made me chuckle because I rarely get music and love related questions! Send more! You can do that by sending your question or request for some advice by emailing me at [email protected].
Now, let’s get started.
“My girlfriend doesn’t like metal music. Every time I play Metallica or Slayer, she rolls her eyes. Is this a deal-breaker?”
It’s not a deal-breaker unless she actively tries to replace your playlists with bubblegum pop. Relationships are all about compromise.
Introduce her to some lighter bands as a gateway drug — start with Ghost or some sort of symphonic metal. If she still doesn’t vibe, keep metal as your personal sacred space. Love is louder than your amp, after all. You don’t have to like the same things to be in love; opposites do attract after all.
It could also help things if you open your mind as well and listen to her favorite music. Who knows? Maybe you’ll find something new to listen to when you’re together!
“I’m a touring bassist, and my partner hates that I’m gone so much. How do I balance love and life on the road?”
Ah, the eternal struggle of rock versus romance.
Communication is key — FaceTime or Zoom, love letters, and sending them exclusive snippets of your shows can help bridge the distance. Bonus points if you dedicate a song to them onstage. If they still can’t handle it, remind them that being with a rock star means sharing the stage with your dreams too.
On the other side, there needs to be some sort of compromise. They need to understand that touring is part of your career.
“I keep attracting the same type of emotionally unavailable people. What am I doing wrong?”
I’ve been here before. I used to attract one toxic relationship after another until I worked on myself and healed, so I feel where you’re coming from.
First off, stop blaming yourself. You’re not a disaster magnet; you’re just shopping in the wrong aisle. Change up your type — ditch the brooding bad boys and go for someone who looks like they actually recycle. Emotional unavailability is not a personality trait; it’s a neon sign to keep moving.
If you keep attracting a bad “type”, you might want to seek therapy from a trained professional. That way you can get to the root of why you’re stuck in this rut and fix that. Take time off, be celibate and single, be alone and self reflect.
“My partner is obsessed with astrology, but I think it’s nonsense. How do we make this work?”
As I said earlier, opposites can attract, even if your partner checks horoscopes while you roll your eyes. The answer to this can be pretty simple: let them have their stars; you keep your skepticism.
You could, however, give it a shot just once — it might even be fun. I use numerology and astrology all the time and my boyfriend is a total disbeliever. But he respects me and doesn’t mock or belittle me for it, and that’s what matters.
As the holidays creep closer, remember this: love, like a perfect gift, doesn’t have to come wrapped in glitter or cost a fortune. The best relationships are built on moments, not material things. So whether it’s a shared laugh, a deep conversation, or just being each other’s safe haven… cherish it.
So whether you’re cozying up with someone special or rocking your solo vibes this season, don’t let the holiday pressure turn your dating life into a stress fest. Keep it real, keep it fun, and most importantly, keep being unapologetically you.
Until next time, rock on, lovebirds!
